Week 4 – The Laws of Giving and Receiving

There’s an old, old saying that goes “what goes around, comes around.” and many others of the same sentiment from all corners of the world. And while some people may appear to be on the receiving end a lot more than the giving end, by and large, this is so very true.

There is a motto in my business networking group that goes “Giver’s Gain” if you give a lot of business referrals to others, you will also receive more business referrals. And the evidence for that stacks up in their statistics. Although, it doesn’t necessarily come from the person you gave the referral to.

This week in the Masterkeys, we talked about the very same thing. Give more, get more. If you want to have a friend, first of all be a friend. If you want love, give love. Don’t say, ‘when I have money I’ll donate to my favourite charities.’ Give now, because the laws of giving and receiving are always present.  Here’s the Law of Giving and Receiving, which should be read daily:

(I always start by saying “I promise to keep these 4 promises”)

Wherever I go I bring a gift. I may bring a compliment, prayer, trinket, flower, but I promise I will give something to every person I encounter.

I promise to be a grateful receiver of the gifts that surround me; notice nature, kindness, smiles and compliments, which I gladly receive with a thank you.

I promise to give the hope for joy, affluence, kindness and love, consciously with every encounter, regardless of the brevity.

I promise to give without the expectation of reciprocity fromthe channels I enhance because I know I am in the dynamic flow of giving and receiving.

Ends. (I always keep my promises, signed)

Week 3A – the Blueprint Builder

This should be read aloud each day with gusto and enthusiasm!

It is The Self Confidence Formula.

I promise,

First. I know that I have the ability to achieve the object of my Definite Major Purpose in life, therefore, I DEMAND of myself persistant, continuous action towards its attainment and I, here and now, promise to render such action.

Second. I realise the dominating thoughts of my mind will eventually reproduce themselves in outward, physical action and gradually transform themselves into physical reality. Therefore, I will concentrate my thoughts for 30 minutes daily, upon the task of thinking of the person I intend to become, thereby creating in my mind a clear mental picture of that person.

Third. I know through the principle of autosuggestion, any desire that I persistently hold in my mind will eventually seek expression through some practical means of obtaining the object back of it. Therefore, I will devote 10 minutes daily to demanding of myself the development of self confidence.

Fourth. I have clearly written down a description of my definite chief aim in life and I will never stop trying until I shall have developed sufficient self confidence for its attainment.

Fifth. I fully realise that no wealth or position can long endure unless built upon truth and justice. Therefore, I will engage in no transaction which does not benefit all whom it affects. I will succeed by attracting to myself the forces I wish to use and the co-operation of other people. I induce others to serve me because of my willingness to serve others. I will eliminate hatred, envy, jealousy, selfishness and cynicism by developing love for all humanity because I know that a negative attitude towards others can never bring me success. I cause others to believe in me because I believe in them and in myself.

I always keep my promises.


Write that out by hand and sign it at the bottom and read that out loud with gusto and enthusiasm each and every day first thing in the morning.

Week 3 – Forming some great habits!

So there is a lot of things we do on a daily basis on the Masterkey Experience.

We read our Definite Major Purpose (DMP) out loud 3 times a day and now we have a little ‘movie trailer’ version to add into the mix.

We read our Blueprint Builder every day (Did I say I’d write that out in another post? Yeah, I think I did. It will happen this week!)

We read Og’s Greatest Salesman 3 times a day

We read Haanel’s Masterkey System every day

We sit very still every day for at least 15 minutes.

We now have two 3×5 index cards to read aloud and do our ‘Chore’ by the date we promised we’d do it.

We have this blog to write (ok, I’m late in posting this)

And we also have to fine tune our DMP with some SMART goals.

So here’s the thing. Some people will say “this is too much, it’s really hard to find the time to do this” and allow themselves to slip/slide and miss doing them. Others will say the same thing but get on with it anyway. You see, we have a choice. We can acknowledge there’s work to be done and CHOOSE to get on and do it in the knowledge that with repitition, it will become a habit.

I learned an acronym some years ago that still comes in easy. In fact, we turned it into a little song with actions (I’ll leave that to your imagination) that I call upon quite often. It goes like this:

R – repitition, repitition

E – easy, easy

P – pleasure, pleasure

O – often, often

H – habit, habit

Because when we Repeat something enough it soon becomes Easy. And when something is Easy, we find pleasure in doing it. And if we find something Pleasurable we will do it Often. And when we do something Often enough, it soon becomes a Habit!

So I’ll REPOH my way through each day and week knowing that change can take a lot of hard mental labour but if I’m going to have habits, they may as well be powerful, purposeful, enabling ones. Have an awesome week.

Week 2 – My Little 3 x 5 Friends

So my Definite Major Purpose (DMP) has been written and I’m reading this thing OUT LOUD each and every day! Seriously. I find the best place to do this is in my attic office. It’s far enough away from everyone that I can just SHOUT IT OUT!! Ha, it feels really good. I get my blood pumping and the air is punching out of my lungs as I commit to my future self.

This week I added 2 Personal Pivotal Needs (PPN’s) These are what I need to be my true self. There’s 7 and they encompass every Need we have.

  • Legacy – what we leave behind for others after we’re gone
  • Spiritual Growth – our desire to Grow
  • Autonomy – to come and go as you please
  • Liberty – Having trhe money to do what you want
  • Helping Others – the need to serve
  • Rcognition for Creative Expression –
  • True Health – more than just going down the gym on a regular basis

If we are true to ourselves there will be two PPN’s that will jump out at us. Though in mastering and manifesting our 2 PPn’s we actually get the other 5 as well.

So for the month of October we are reading Scroll II of The Greatest Salesman In the World three times every day. First thing in the morning; lunchtime and last thing before going to bed. And yes, you’ve guessed it, OUT LOUD WITH ENTHUSIASM!!  My neighbours love me!

Our Blueprint Builder – I’ll post this on another post. It’s totally awesome and sets my mindset for the day. This is read once a day OUT LOUD!

I’m reading part two of the Masterkey System by Charles Haanel and doing the exercise at the end of the lesson. This always consists of sitting still for at least 15 minutes in silence and completely clearing my mind. Anybody beginning this exercise will naturally find it difficult to quiet the mind and think of nothing but this training each and every day has a profound affect on the rest of the day afterwards.

This week I’ve also created two little 3 x 5 index cards. One one side of each one I have written my PPN’s. One the reverse of the first one I’ve written a shortened version of my DMP, kind of like a movie trailer verson. On the reverse of the other I’ve written a chore. This chore is something I commit to do before the end of the week. Oh boy, my office sure looks neat and tidy now!

And my last requirement for the week was to write this blog. I hope you’ve found this little insight into our Masterkey programme of interest and if so, leave me a message and I’ll let you know when the next one starts.

Be kind to yourself and others. Don’t be so wrapped up in yourself and your own cause that you have no compassion for others. And have a peaceful week.

Week 1 – Masterkey Freshers Week

I’m so excited that the week finally arrived when The Masterkey Experience began again with a whole new set of Members all with a passion and a purpose to discover their true and honest selves and build their dream future.

I did this course myself 2 years ago and found the whole process so incredibly powerful and empowering that I wanted to Guide new members along their own path of discovery. And this year I am going through it for a third time now as a Master Guide.

During the course we study the book of Charles Haanel, The Masterkey System. Each week we study a new chapter and read this every morning followed by the instructions for sitting quietly for at least 15 minutes. This can take a bit of practice for those with a busy mind. We read the introduction to Og Mandino’s The Greatest Salesman in the World just prior to the course starting and now we take each Scroll and read that 3 times a day for a whole month! Yes, this is no course for the feint-hearted but then change requires digging in and creating new habits.

We write a Definite Major Purpose (DMP). A living, breathing document of how our life will be at a point in the future and fill it with positive emotion and vivid detail to begin engaging our subconscious to start delivering. This is not wishful thinking. We decide what our purpose in life is, or should I say that over the next 6 months, many will discover their true Dharma, purpose of being here. We say how this will be achieved and what will be sacrificed in order to achieve this.

My purpose as a Guide is to help the new members create this DMP by encouraging them the draw out the finer details; to question why they have written, so beginning the process of some hard mental labour in some cases. But this is necessary. Most people wil spend longer planning their summer vacation than thinking about the design of their future life and how they want it to be. Some people have a tendancy of just casting aside this task as it’s “too much to think about” but then finding that nothing changes and they’re still in the same place 10 years down the line. This DMP is also read aloud three times a day. Yeah, really!

The skills I’ve learned both by doing the course and by being a Guide have changed my whole way of thinking. I no longer waste time, or put things off to deal with later. I do prioritse tasks of course but everything gets done and I’ll talk about that in my next few blogs. These skills have also enhanced the way I work my business with Forever and as a Youth Coach, helping others to help themselves. If you want to follow my blog through the 26 week course or find out in advance for next year’s Masterkey Experience, stick your name and email down and I’ll be in touch.

Week 15 – the Franklin Makeover

This week I have been grateful for everything – every little thing! I’ve been writing down all the little things and all of the big things too onto index cards. At least 3 a day but the more I can think of the better I feel.

Starting to pull all that we’ve been learning together. the most favourite lesson for me is in Mandino’s The Greatest Salesman, Scroll II. “I shall greet this day with love in my heart.” The more I feel love and express love (silently and to myself sometimes) the better the day becomes. Nice things happen to you, People do nice things. I notice people being nice to each other and it makes me smile. In short, life is so much sweeter when I am happy, relaxed and loving.

We started the Franklin Makeover. We take the skill that we are weakest at the keep it in mind all week long. Notice it wherever I go. This week, for me, it is Discipline. It took me a while to see it around me but by the middle of the week I was seeing it everywhere including in myself. I needed more discipline and by focussing on it, I got it. And I observed it all around me. If we just slow down and take notice.

Week 14 – Happy New Year

So grateful for what has happened during the past 12 months. Starting 2015 with so much that is new in me. I feel powerful, I feel I can control what I will to control. My amazing trip to Kauai in April/May with my son, Thomas. We had such an amazing time. I know my son will never forget his first time to the US and to the stunning Hawaiian island of Kauai. And for all the beautiful new friendships and mastermind alliances formed. So very special.

Then the commencement of the 2015 MKE as a Guide. Lots of experience gained in reading and helping to guide our new members to create their DMP (Definite Major Purpose).

And realising that you cannot pour from an empty jug. With the best of intentions, helping others, being of service to others, running with my own business and finding that it is absolutely essential not to do so much that you have no time for your own rest, recovery, spirituality and creativity.

Fatigue, deficiencies and reduced immunity is a lesson in itself. The great part of it is that I get to decide what to do about it. Therefore, I start 2016 with a new, updated DMP of my own. I promise to myself that I will always take care of myself. that I will nourish myself and my mind with only good things. And I will stay hydrated!

Week 13 – Christmas Week

I love this time of year for so many reasons. The small children that I see regularly are just so excited about the forthcoming festive season and all the sparkle and lights, decorated trees, lots and lots of chocolate coins and reindeer. It’s a time of going out with friends and colleagues and indulging in the food and wine that always says ‘Christmas’. My own son, even though he is 15 now, still loves Christmas so much and loves to decorate the house and tree. Loves to stock up the kitchen with nice things to eat and kind of keeps an eye on what is under the tree for him. (this year I kept them hidden until Christmas morning- he was a little bit worried). but the thing I love most is when all the shopping is done, all the preparations are done and I can sit in the evening and enjoy the peace and serenity of the house and just ‘be’. To feel happy and content that all is as it should be. The quiet time to let go and relax, even though my eyes are open, my mind has fully surrendered to the thought that I am perfect as I am right now.

Week 12 – What’s it all about?

I’ve been a bit coy about sharing with my wider circle what I’ve been doing but I’ve had enough epiphanies and tangible experiences take place that I’m fully ready to share what this Master Keys Master Mind Association is all about with everyone. Well, for something so fantastic, it would be selfish otherwise and selfishness is just not me.

I’m getting close to being half way through this 6 month personal discovery experience. I don’t want to use the word “journey” as it implies a final destination, I’m a student, again, and I never want to stop learning about life and sharing what I’ve learned with others.

It’s based around the book The Masterkey System – in 24 parts by Charles F. Haanel. This book is not to be read like a novel but as a study course. Learning about the secrets of thinking! He writes: “we must ‘be’ before we can ‘do’ and we can ‘do’ only to the extent of which we ‘are’, and what we ‘are’ depends upon what we ‘think.’  And, oh boy, have I been doing a lot of thinking lately. Not the random stuff that filled my head before, oh no, this involves mental bootcamp; this involves being fully conscious of what goes in and out of my head. But I’ve had to learn it. “What? You’ve been thinking all your life, you needed to learn more?” I hear you say. Well, yes. But, the best part is it’s totally fascinating and fun! I love how I’m thinking these days. You see, there’s a bit more to it. I’ve been learning about The 7 Laws of the Mind too.

The Law of Growth stipulates that what we think about grows, what we forget, atrophies.  This exercise for the mind has us concentrating on the things that we want to happen and to have in our life and to release all other thoughts (negative ones). If we concentrate of what we want, picture it, sense it, step inside it and feel it, smell it, taste it then our subconscious mind see’s it as a given.

For several weeks now I’ve been on a mental diet. “A what?” Yeah, going 7 days without a bad thought and if I have one, I have to start the 7 days all over again. Do you know how hard that is? Try it. The first time I did it, I lasted about an hour. I’ve been paying attention to what goes through my mind. If it’s a good thought and enriches my life or that of others then it stays. However, if it’s a bad thought, one that doesn’t serve me, it’s gone baby! And I need to get rid of it within 7 seconds.

Now hold that thought, I’ll be back.