Week 15 – the Franklin Makeover

This week I have been grateful for everything – every little thing! I’ve been writing down all the little things and all of the big things too onto index cards. At least 3 a day but the more I can think of the better I feel.

Starting to pull all that we’ve been learning together. the most favourite lesson for me is in Mandino’s The Greatest Salesman, Scroll II. “I shall greet this day with love in my heart.” The more I feel love and express love (silently and to myself sometimes) the better the day becomes. Nice things happen to you, People do nice things. I notice people being nice to each other and it makes me smile. In short, life is so much sweeter when I am happy, relaxed and loving.

We started the Franklin Makeover. We take the skill that we are weakest at the keep it in mind all week long. Notice it wherever I go. This week, for me, it is Discipline. It took me a while to see it around me but by the middle of the week I was seeing it everywhere including in myself. I needed more discipline and by focussing on it, I got it. And I observed it all around me. If we just slow down and take notice.

Week 14 – Happy New Year

So grateful for what has happened during the past 12 months. Starting 2015 with so much that is new in me. I feel powerful, I feel I can control what I will to control. My amazing trip to Kauai in April/May with my son, Thomas. We had such an amazing time. I know my son will never forget his first time to the US and to the stunning Hawaiian island of Kauai. And for all the beautiful new friendships and mastermind alliances formed. So very special.

Then the commencement of the 2015 MKE as a Guide. Lots of experience gained in reading and helping to guide our new members to create their DMP (Definite Major Purpose).

And realising that you cannot pour from an empty jug. With the best of intentions, helping others, being of service to others, running with my own business and finding that it is absolutely essential not to do so much that you have no time for your own rest, recovery, spirituality and creativity.

Fatigue, deficiencies and reduced immunity is a lesson in itself. The great part of it is that I get to decide what to do about it. Therefore, I start 2016 with a new, updated DMP of my own. I promise to myself that I will always take care of myself. that I will nourish myself and my mind with only good things. And I will stay hydrated!

Week 13 – Christmas Week

I love this time of year for so many reasons. The small children that I see regularly are just so excited about the forthcoming festive season and all the sparkle and lights, decorated trees, lots and lots of chocolate coins and reindeer. It’s a time of going out with friends and colleagues and indulging in the food and wine that always says ‘Christmas’. My own son, even though he is 15 now, still loves Christmas so much and loves to decorate the house and tree. Loves to stock up the kitchen with nice things to eat and kind of keeps an eye on what is under the tree for him. (this year I kept them hidden until Christmas morning- he was a little bit worried). but the thing I love most is when all the shopping is done, all the preparations are done and I can sit in the evening and enjoy the peace and serenity of the house and just ‘be’. To feel happy and content that all is as it should be. The quiet time to let go and relax, even though my eyes are open, my mind has fully surrendered to the thought that I am perfect as I am right now.

Week 12 – What’s it all about?

I’ve been a bit coy about sharing with my wider circle what I’ve been doing but I’ve had enough epiphanies and tangible experiences take place that I’m fully ready to share what this Master Keys Master Mind Association is all about with everyone. Well, for something so fantastic, it would be selfish otherwise and selfishness is just not me.

I’m getting close to being half way through this 6 month personal discovery experience. I don’t want to use the word “journey” as it implies a final destination, I’m a student, again, and I never want to stop learning about life and sharing what I’ve learned with others.

It’s based around the book The Masterkey System – in 24 parts by Charles F. Haanel. This book is not to be read like a novel but as a study course. Learning about the secrets of thinking! He writes: “we must ‘be’ before we can ‘do’ and we can ‘do’ only to the extent of which we ‘are’, and what we ‘are’ depends upon what we ‘think.’  And, oh boy, have I been doing a lot of thinking lately. Not the random stuff that filled my head before, oh no, this involves mental bootcamp; this involves being fully conscious of what goes in and out of my head. But I’ve had to learn it. “What? You’ve been thinking all your life, you needed to learn more?” I hear you say. Well, yes. But, the best part is it’s totally fascinating and fun! I love how I’m thinking these days. You see, there’s a bit more to it. I’ve been learning about The 7 Laws of the Mind too.

The Law of Growth stipulates that what we think about grows, what we forget, atrophies.  This exercise for the mind has us concentrating on the things that we want to happen and to have in our life and to release all other thoughts (negative ones). If we concentrate of what we want, picture it, sense it, step inside it and feel it, smell it, taste it then our subconscious mind see’s it as a given.

For several weeks now I’ve been on a mental diet. “A what?” Yeah, going 7 days without a bad thought and if I have one, I have to start the 7 days all over again. Do you know how hard that is? Try it. The first time I did it, I lasted about an hour. I’ve been paying attention to what goes through my mind. If it’s a good thought and enriches my life or that of others then it stays. However, if it’s a bad thought, one that doesn’t serve me, it’s gone baby! And I need to get rid of it within 7 seconds.

Now hold that thought, I’ll be back.

 

Week 10 – A year on from The Passenger

I thought I’d repost one of my blogs from last year about being a Passenger and how it gives us the opportunity to take notice. By the way, since I wrote this I have travelled by train a bit more and been able to enjoy the views rather than keeping my eyes on the road. Take time to stop and look.

Something happened last night that doesn’t happen very often. I became the passenger instead of the driver.  A friend had invited be to be her +1 at the press launch of a new Cafe in the west end of Glasgow.  When she arrived, she was driving her old blue van with her business logo on the side, Thorntonhall Farmhouse Icecream, she is a supplier to the new cafe. I knew we were going across town and didn’t really fancy the journey in a rickety old bus on the motorway, so I asked if she wanted to come in my car. “No, it’s ok” she said, “I’ll drive.” So I climbed in and we set off. We were chattering away as usual, me interrupting when I saw something eyecatching. It was when we were coming home (after some splendid hospitality from Penny Black’s) that she said, “you’ve become the passenger, you’re seeing things that you don’t normally see because you usually drive.” Now, I’m not advocating that we all take our eyes off the road whilst driving, but it did occur to me that we miss so much by always being the driver.  Note to self: take the train and visit some areas I’ve not been to in a while. Get out more and appreciate what is around us.

So that leads me to what I was going to talk about which is being an Observer. I’ve noticed how much more happy I’ve been since I stopped giving opinions. I still get asked but I’m more likely to say “I don’t know ..” And it’s the same with listening to opinions, especially if they’re negative. I’ve developed a habit of somehow deflecting stuff I don’t want to hear and highlighting something positive. I think overall I’d say that progress is good.

 

Week 9 – Persistence

The Greatest Salesman In The World has truly become of my top 5 books ever! I loved Scroll II = a whole month of opening up my heart each and every day to everyone. Realising that in order to master this I must forgive everyone that I have ever had a disagreement with. Does it mean I welcome them into my personal circle? No, not at all, why would I want that negativity? But what it means is that I have released any ill feeling I have harboured towards them. I have laid down the weight of that dissonance and no longer am slowed down by that drag. It’s a very liberating thing to bless and release, wish them well and really hope that their lives are full. It took a bit of persistance this year but I’ve finally let it all go.

So, joyous it was to move on to Scroll III on the first of December and revisit “I persist until I succeed”. I get so much energy and strength from this scroll. It’s a wonderful way to start the day and also to end it by reading aloud. If I could bottle that energy I would and gift it to everyone.

I needed persistence this month. So far, it’s been pretty exhausting. I’ve felt burnt out, adrenaline fatique and as a result of reduced immunity, a virus. I also needed the strength of a wonderful mastermind partner to remind me to believe!

Happily, after some much needed rest and the help of some excellent health care, I feel so much better. I feel as if I am succeeding! Persist!

Week 8 – The Joys of being a Masterkey Guide

This week I am dedicating the blog to the amazing souls who are the new Masterkey members in my team 2015.

It was quite a consideration to decide to become a Guide for the new people undertaking this incredible but challenging course but I am so glad I did. I loved doing the course myself last year for the first time and I wanted to help others have an incredible experience too. But the feelings of pride, happiness and amazement have been oh so much more than I could ever imagined.

I have so loved reading the blogs of each and every one of them. I’m so impressed that they have all dug deep and searched for the truth inside themselves and surrendered to the whole experience. The progress they have each made so far is mindblowing. Some are still working on fine tuning their DMP (Definite Major Purpose) but that is perfectly ok. They are designing their futures and adding enormous detail. I know it will transpire for them.

Where have the past 2 months gone? We’re already a third of the way through the course. I could describe it as being like a degree course squashed into 6 months. It’s intense, there’s work to be done, there’s feelings to explore – not all easy stuff but so incredibly worth it for those who do. I know after I finished this year I was definitely not the same woman who started it back in September 2014. If you care to scroll all the way back to the first few blogs, you’ll see a different kind of person.

Anyway, I am sending my love to each and every one of my team of ‘golden’ peacemakers and looking forward to seeing what happens in the next 4 months.

Week 7 – I Love You and I Love You 2

Just a few musings from this time last year>

Focusing on not giving opinions but giving a gift to everyone, be that a smile, a gesture of some sort or a compliment really affects the people around  me.  I’ve always been sincerely appreciative of anything anyone has done for me but just holding their eye a second or two longer and really delivering my gratitude with even more heartfelt emotion becomes tangible and not just a platitude. And it’s so easy to do.

Keeping up with my reading and all the others bits and pieces which are becoming more of a way of life rather than things on a list to do each day. I still do my readings first thing in the morning but everything else fits in and around my work. Funny: I was sitting in a car park waiting to go into a class and I had brought my Greatest Salesman book but forgot my DMP or movie trailer.  Surprised myself that I could reiterate practically word for word my DMP from memory.  I know it’s best to see it written down but good to know it’s within me wherever I go.

A group of women were at a seminar on how to live in a loving relationship with their husband.

The women were asked, “How many of you love your husband?”

All the women raised their hands.

Then they were asked, “When was the last time you told your husband you loved him?”

Some women answered today, a few yesterday, and some couldn’t remember.

The women were then told to take out their cell phones and text their husband: “I love you, sweetheart.”

Then, the women were then told to exchange phones with another person, and to read aloud the text message they received, in response.

Here are some of the replies:

I think some are hilarious…if you have been married for quite a while, a sign of true love…
Like who else would you reply to in such a succinct and honest way.

1. Who the hell is this?
2. Eh, mother of my children, are you sick or what?
3. Yeh, and I love you too. What’s up with you??
4. What now? Did you crash the car again?
5. I don’t understand what you mean?
6. What the f*ck did you do now?
8. Don’t beat about the bush, just tell me how much you need?
9. Am I dreaming?
10. If you don’t tell me who this message is actually for, someone will die.
11. I thought we agreed you wouldn’t drink during the day.
12. Your mother is coming to stay with us, isn’t she??
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Life isn’t about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain.
If you are having a bad day, remember it could be worse…..

Week 6 – Accountability and the Gal in the Glass

There’s been a couple of times in my life when I’ve been surprised by … a piece of paper!

The first time was 10 years ago,not long after I started my Network Marketing career and I was all over the place trying to do everything. I was not scheduling my time nor keeping a record of what I had done on a daily basis.  Then one day a colleague shared with me a piece of paper that changed my life! It was an activity sheet. It was a grid box with a list of activities down the left hand side and a box for every day of the week.  I kept a bar gate log of each activity I did on a daily basis and awarded myself points for each activity. 20 points was nothing, what I had might disappear. 30 points was ok but not going to get anywhere fast. 40 slightly better but over 60 points per week and my business would take off.  It also showed me what area my activity was taking place and what areas were being neglected. It was a most powerful tool that helped transform my business.

The scond most powerful piece was a lot more recently and it was a poem written by Dale Wimbrow circa 1934, entitled The Gal (or Guy) in the Glass.  This was another activity to be done on a daily basis prior to retiring for the evening. Print the poem out and stick it to the bathroom mirror. Each evening look yourself in the eye and read out the poem to yourself. I have to say the first time I did this in earnest, I cried. I realised I had been cheating myself so often and for so long. But I also admired the gal in the glass because of all her endeavours and triumphs and losses – and I felt a lot of love for her!  Read it for yourself, print it out and look yourself in the eye as you read it. Then say “I love you (add your name)”

The Gal (or Guy) in the Glass

When you get what you want in your struggle for pelf (money)

and the world makes you Queen for a Day,

Then go to the mirror and look at yourself

and see what that Gal has to say.

For it isn’t your Father or Mother or Partner for Life

Whose judgement upon you must pass

The Lady whose verdict counts most in your life

Is the Gla staring back fromthe Glass

She’s the one to please, never mind all the rest,

For she’s clear with you right up to the end

And you’ve passed your most dangerous, difficult test

If the Gal in the Glass is your Friend

You may be like Jack Horner and Chisel a plum

And think you’re a wonderful Gal

But the woman in the glass says you’re only a bum

If you can’t look her straight in the eye.

You can fool the whole world down the pathway of years,

And get pats onthe back as you pass,

But your final reward will be heartaches and tears

If you’ve cheated the gal in the glass,

I Love You, Grace McCarthy